I have been asked the question so many times recently what do you want?
So I pose the question to you. “What do you want?”
- A successful Career?
- Retire young?
- Great Marriage?
- Heart of a wayward child?
- Regular vacation time?
Until you determine what it is you want there really isn’t a clear direction. Once you determine what it is then it’s identifying what is contrary to your objective. Bad habits, Bad influences, wrong influences, Bad anchors, Energy vampires. Time for a bus stop. I am very appreciative to the person who turned me onto Jon Gordon’s book the Energy Bus.
There were several important take aways but one really stood out to me and that is to give yourself permission to surround yourself with the right people, that includes family. If you are going to fulfill your purpose in this life, whether in your marriage, your family or your work it is unfortunate to allow negative influences, takers and energy vampires to steal your joy, your time, and your legacy.
Some people want to talk about what doesn’t work- to you. Some people want to discuss people and problems not solutions-to you. Some people want to go to counselors but never implement action-to you, go to conferences but never make changes to their business-to you. Some people want to borrow money but never change their lifestyle-to you. Come on now you know what I’m talking about. These relationships infect our lives and keep us up at night, distract us from everything we do. We can change ourselves but we cannot change others. This is so hard to accept.
Sometimes its a matter of simply accepting people.
The Scorpion and the Frog
A scorpion and a frog meet on the bank of a stream and the scorpion asks the frog to carry him across on its back. The frog asks, “How do I know you won’t sting me?” The scorpion says, “Because if I do, I will die too.”
The frog is satisfied, and they set out, but in midstream, the scorpion stings the frog. The frog feels the onset of paralysis and starts to sink, knowing they both will drown, but has just enough time to gasp “Why?” Replies the scorpion: “Its my nature…”
Once you have a clear direction you are heading, having people that will believe, agree, encourage, cheer and or pray for you if needed gives you the oomph to get through the valleys and over the mountains of life’s journey. That doesn’t mean you always agree, thank goodness. It just means that you are not a giant vending machine where people in your life come to vend.
“I will take the m&m peanuts and she will take the Fritos” and you have no-one refilling your machine. What you have is mutually beneficial relationships.
What do I want? To make sure I am honoring God with my gifts while I am still here, in the midst of that honoring the family God gave me. This requires monitoring lest I get off track